06 June 2007

For Sale?

When 3M returns from Iraq we will be PCS'ing. Since we found out that we would quickly be departing after his return and we know that the real estate market here is terrible we agreed to put the house up for sale when 3M comes home on leave at the beginning of July. We both talked about this decision and the only concern he and I had was about the price we would be able to sell at because of the terrible market.

Today I began my "get the house ready to sell" cleaning. I took a break from the cleaning so LM and I could go to Gymboree and on the way home I had a mini-meltdown.

I realized that I don't want to put the house on the market when 3M comes home on leave. I am afraid that the house will sell and if heaven-forbid anything should happen to him I won't have our home. I won't have the place where we started our life as husband and wife. The home we painted, tiled, decorated and furnished. The place where we started our family. The place where I cried on the floor when I found out he was leaving. The place where he came home to and told me about his day.

This home is part of our family and I have never been happier in any place. I can't help but feeling that I need to hold onto it if the unimaginable occurs. I can not bear the thought of not having this house if something happens. Is this rational?

I know that choosing whether or not to put the house up for sale is a huge deal. The market here is slow; houses are sitting for longer periods of time. Yet, I can't help but feel like if we put it on the market in July it will sell quickly but if we wait it won't sell for quite sometime. Keeping the house will not kill us; it will significantly lower our spending ability; we could swing it but it definitely is not preferable.

I don't know what to do. All I do know is that right now the thought of not having our home is really upsetting me.

Do you have any advice, dear Internet?


Alicia said...

I wish I had some sound piece of advice for you, but the Navy has moved us so frequently we haven't had a moment to even think about buying a home.

Your thoughts are rational, no worries about that. I don't know that I'd be willing to sell a house full of memories quite so quickly either.

Best wishes on your decision!

Gus'girl said...

Oh my gosh. Reading this my heart just broke. As you know, Gus & I sold our beloved house before he went out to the RAG, & then Iraq. Things were definitely better in the market but that was the start of the decline. I made him counter & turn down 3 offers before we sold it. He was so worried that we had done the wrong thing, but it eventually sold at a decent price. (& I was so proud I had made him hold out) That was before.
As for now, I can't tell you the times I have ached over not having my house. For a lot of the same reasons you gave. Plus that was where we met, had our first dates end, first fooling around, & our life there. And it was eventually where we got married. But the "life" we shared there is what I mourn. The daily routine, & life milestones. Yeah, the house was great, but I miss my life.
So, here I sit in the same deployment boat that you are in. Gus has mentioned several times that he wishes we would've kept the house. Because of my really not having a "home" right now.
I thought about what you said, & it would make sense for someone like me, (being from here), to have kept the house, (possibly). But what about you? If your worst fear came true, would you stay here? Where is your major support system? What would you want to have to deal with in the time afterward. Surely not selling it then? Imagine the putting it up for sale then?
I believe in being prepared, but not being pessimistic. God forbid anything happen. You can't dwell on it. But if it did, I don't think you would want to live here. (I might be wrong) Deployment is an emotional time. It's hard to make any decisions, let alone the big ones. Make it together as a couple like you do most things. Make it for the well being of your family. You are missing him right now. I'm sure the thought of losing another thing, (being the house), just hit you unexpectedly. You are rational, deployments aren't. Go easy on yourself, you aren't being timed or tested.
You know where I am, if you need me!

Erin said...

Thanks ladies! I know that you both understand where I am coming from. I'll keep you posted :)